Zoe: How I spend Father’s Day after my dad died

Zoe: How I spend Father’s Day after my dad died

Hi, I’m Zoe and I’m one of Winston Wish’s Young Ambassadors. Just before my fourth birthday, I lost my dad in a mid-air collision, leaving behind my mum, my 18-month old brother and I.

Although I was very young at the time, the feeling of bereavement didn’t really hit until I was about eight. I felt as though I was different to every other kid because I didn’t have two parents.

That was when Winston’s Wish stepped in. Not only did I now not feel like the only one, but they also gave us lots of ways of coping.

Here is a list of some of my favourite things to do on Father’s Day:

  1. Ask mum to tell me stories of what my dad was like and go through some of his belongings
  2. Make a Father’s Day card – just because he’s not there to receive it doesn’t mean you can’t make one. I like to go to his favourite place and leave it there for him. If this isn’t possible during this time, then I would put it in a memory box.
  3. Have his favourite dinner or drink and raise a glass to him
  4. Light a candle and take a moment to think how proud he would be of us all
  5. Ring a friend – they may not understand but they’ll always listen and no doubt cheer you up
  6. Eat some chocolate (my solution to coping with anything!)

On Father’s Day every year I tend to do almost all of these. As a family, we make sure Father’s Day acts as a celebration rather than something to shy away from. I hope, with time, you can do that with your family and friends too.

I think the most important thing to remember every Father’s Day, is that although it may feel like it sometimes, you are not alone in going through this.

I hope you have a very happy and memorable Father’s Day doing whatever feels good for you and your family.


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